Coming Out Later

My latest at HuffPo, on coming out of the closet a bit later in life: Perhaps the most important lesson is that people come out at all ages….It’s not as if the popularity of Glee means that, from now on, all LGBT folk will come out as teens, surrounded by a supportive, talented and ridiculously… Continue reading Coming Out Later

What’s Next for the Marriage Movement

Just posted a piece at The New Republic in response to our game-changing victories in the four states with marriage votes:

It is one thing for the state to allow you to marry, and quite another for your parents to show up at your wedding and be happy for you. Both are significant….

The election is over. The pro-equality forces won, and won big. But the fight for marriage is a long game.

Read the full piece at TNR.

D’Souza: The Real Problem

My take on the D’Souza affair:

Last week, the conservative luminary Dinesh D’Souza resigned as president of The King’s College, a New York City evangelical school, after it was revealed that he brought his mistress to a Christian conference, apparently shared a room with her, and introduced her as his fiancée — even though he was still married to his wife of 20 years.

Andy Mills, chairman of the college’s Board of Trustees told students, “God has a mighty future for Dinesh, but there are some things he has to go through first” — which is evangelical-speak for “WTF was he thinking?!?”

Read the rest over at HuffPo.

John at TNR on the Regnerus Study

Mark Regnerus’s new study, which purports to show significant differences between children raised in same-sex households and those raised in two-parent biological families, does no such thing. Here’s why. Update: Maggie Gallagher’s Reply, and My Rejoinder.

Frank Kameny: A Personal Remembrance

First published at Between the Lines News on October 20, 2011 I was in San Francisco when I received the news, about to go on stage to deliver a National Coming Out Day lecture. A friend texted me: “Frank Kameny passed away today.” The godfather of the gay rights movement was felled by a heart… Continue reading Frank Kameny: A Personal Remembrance

Farewell to Readers

First published at 365gay.com on June 24, 2011 This column marks the end of my weekly contribution to 365gay.com. It’s been a good run, and I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you and farewell. I’ve been a columnist since 2002, when I started contributing to Between the Lines, Michigan’s LGBT newspaper. Those… Continue reading Farewell to Readers

Anti-Marriage Advocates Have no Case

First published at 365gay.com on June 17, 2011 New York may be on the brink of extending marriage to same-sex couples. As of this writing, the state’s marriage-equality bill appears to be one vote shy of passage. Several state legislators are still undecided. It’s a nail-biter. Which means that our enemies are out in full… Continue reading Anti-Marriage Advocates Have no Case

Gay Man in the Jury Box

First published at 365gay.com on June 10, 2011 “Are you married?” It seems like a simple question. But on closer glance, much depends on context. In this case, the context was jury duty. I was Candidate #13, sitting in the box during “voir dire,” the process wherein the judge and attorneys ask questions in order… Continue reading Gay Man in the Jury Box