First published at Between the Lines News on September 3, 2009 “You don’t just want us to tolerate what you gay people do,” my skeptical questioner announced, “you want us to think that it’s RIGHT.” Whenever I hear this point–and it’s pretty often–I always think to myself, “Duh.” Of course I want that. Why would… Continue reading Other People’s Judgments
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‘Safe’ Doesn’t Mean ‘Shut Up’
First published at 365gay.com on August 21, 2009 A friend writes, “I’m coordinating a safe-space training at [an urban public university]. One participant stated that she felt she was a strong ally, but her religious beliefs dictate that homosexuality is a sin. What should I do? Can I deny her a safe-space sticker, or ask… Continue reading ‘Safe’ Doesn’t Mean ‘Shut Up’
The Right’s Immoral Take on Gay Marriage
First published at 365gay.com on August 14, 2009 Anyone who knows Jonathan Rauch will tell you he’s not a sappy, emotional sort of guy. Rauch, a senior writer for National Journal magazine and a contributing editor of The Atlantic, is known for his measured, logical (and occasionally quite witty) prose; those of us fortunate enough… Continue reading The Right’s Immoral Take on Gay Marriage
Robert George’s Reality
First published at 365gay.com on August 7, 2009 Robert George’s recent piece in the Wall Street Journal, “Gay Marriage, Democracy, and the Courts,” [http://online.wsj.com/article/SB20001424052970204619004574322084279548434.html] contains both sense and nonsense—but more of the latter. George, a Princeton professor of jurisprudence and founder of the American Principles Project, is a preeminent conservative scholar. In the op-ed, he… Continue reading Robert George’s Reality
We’ve still got far to go
First published at 365gay.com on July 31, 2009 I’m not usually a touchy-feely, share-your-emotions, “Trust the Process” kind of guy. I’m a philosophy professor. I revel in cold, hard logic. So it was with some trepidation that I signed up as a faculty member for Campus Pride’s annual summer Leadership Camp—which, since it was mostly… Continue reading We’ve still got far to go
What’s Real
First published at Between the Lines News on July 16, 2009 Recently I’ve been reflecting on mentoring, and the various ways we introduce newcomers to aspects of gay life—the good, the bad, and the ugly—in an effort to help them navigate their own path. This brought to mind two stories, both involving gay bars. The… Continue reading What’s Real
Luxury vs. Charity
First published at Between the Lines News on July 9, 2009 Some years ago I attended a seminar on charitable giving in the GLBT community. The event was aimed toward affluent donors, and judging by the cars in the parking lot, it hit its target. (I drove an old Nissan at the time, and was… Continue reading Luxury vs. Charity
Dangerous Campsite?
First published at 365gay.com on July 3, 2009 “What do you think about my having sex with an 18-year-old?” a thirtysomething friend asked. What do I think? Tread carefully. Notice I said “Tread carefully,” not “Run in the other direction,” which was my initial gut reaction. So let me fill in some background. The legal… Continue reading Dangerous Campsite?
Coming Out Skeptical
First published at 365gay.com on June 19, 2009 I’m a big proponent of being out, not just about being gay, but about any personally significant trait whose revelation subverts problematic assumptions. For me, that includes being out as an atheist. “Atheist or agnostic?” I’m often asked. For practical purposes, I’m not sure that there’s much… Continue reading Coming Out Skeptical
Why it Matters that Adam Lambert Came Out
First published at 365gay.com on June 12, 2009 So, Adam Lambert comes out in the latest issue of Rolling Stone, and you’re thinking, “What’s next? Rolling Stone announces ‘Water is wet’”? I get where you’re coming from. But there are deeper lessons to be gleaned. First, notice how Lambert comes out—in a music magazine, with… Continue reading Why it Matters that Adam Lambert Came Out