First published at 365gay.com on December 10, 2007. I won’t have any transgender people at my Christmas party this year. Actually, I won’t have any non-transgender people either: I’m not hosting a party this Christmas. But in years past I’ve hosted many, and I’ve never had any transgender people attending, unless you count one former… Continue reading The Diversity Fallacy
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Young Love, Older Love
First published at 365gay.com on Nov. 28, 2007 My partner Mark and I introduced “Bob” and “Jim” at a dinner party at our place. Bob, 31, is recently out of the closet, and Jim, 27, just returned to the U.S. after living overseas for four years. We weren’t trying to play matchmaker when we invited… Continue reading Young Love, Older Love
‘Hairspray,’ Race, and Gays
First published in 365gay.com on August 6, 2007 When I was in junior high I used to sit at the “black” lunch table in the cafeteria, much to the shock (and occasional ridicule) of my white schoolmates. The seating was not officially segregated, but with rare exceptions African-Americans sat together, and I sat with them.… Continue reading ‘Hairspray,’ Race, and Gays
Small Conversions, Big Victories
First published at 365gay.com on July 9, 2007 If I were the religious type, I might be preparing for Armageddon right now. You see, last weekend my partner Mark and I drove out to his parents’ house to help with yard work. This in itself would be unremarkable except that, as recently as Christmas, Mark’s… Continue reading Small Conversions, Big Victories
eDisharmony
First published in Between the Lines on June 14, 2007 When I heard that someone was suing eHarmony for its refusal to provide dating services for same-sex couples, I winced. It’s not that I approve of their policy (I don’t). It’s not even that I think that their policy, while wrongheaded, is in fact legal… Continue reading eDisharmony
Welcome, Baby Cheney
First published in Between the Lines, May 31, 2007 The day after Jerry Falwell’s funeral, Mary Cheney—who is a LESBIAN, in case you’ve forgotten the Bush-Kerry debates—gave birth to a baby boy. If I were the world’s scriptwriter, I would have reversed the order: Cheney gives birth, then Falwell keels over. No matter: just as… Continue reading Welcome, Baby Cheney
Middle-Upper-Thirties Musings
First Published in “Between The Lines” in May 2007 If the marketing industry is any gauge, I’m not a very good Gay Man. No matter how many pairs of shoes I own, I typically wear only two: a pair of simple black dress boots or a pair of black sneakers. Same with jeans: a pair… Continue reading Middle-Upper-Thirties Musings
Listening to God—and Gays
First published in Between the Lines on April 18, 2007 In a recent column I wrote about a Christian couple who invited me to dinner during one of my lecture tours. I first met the husband when he stood up during a Q&A session after one of my talks. He described himself as theologically conservative… Continue reading Listening to God—and Gays
Amazing Grace
First published in Between the Lines on March 22, 2007 The gentleman stood up during a lull in the Q&A session, and I was grateful for anyone to break the silence. In recent years I’d become used to this routine: I’d go to a small liberal-arts college to speak on homosexuality. The students, who were… Continue reading Amazing Grace
Mary Cheney—Unfit Parent?
First published in Between the Lines on December 14, 2006 Mary Cheney is pregnant. Wish her well. That’s what good folks do when presented with an expectant mother. Behind the scenes they may say or think whatever they like, but publicly they wish the mother-to-be well. Which puts right-wingers in a bit of a bind.… Continue reading Mary Cheney—Unfit Parent?